ARE YOU THE PERSON YOU THINK YOU ARE or, maybe you’re the person inside trying to get out

If your parents got it right the first time figuring out who you were and pointing you in the right direction; or, if by some incredible fluke you figured it out yourself, you are likely successful and happy…or, at least comfortable in your own skin. But many of us go down the wrong path to begin with,,,later, finding that we can’t live with ourselves as it’s going, For sure at sometime in our lives, we will become in touch with our God-given talents, persona, dreams, and desires…better sooner than later.

It’s a matter of what we do and how we got where we are now. Even look at relationships and how random a process they turn out to be, What we become without upfront direction or incentive most likely stems from a circumstance(s) we encountered rather than from a preplanned path forward. If we are ‘Type A,’ we interact strongly and with at least some purpose in our social environment. So, finding ourselves early is often easier. In almost all cases, getting ‘out there’ with some kind of a job is the right way to expose our talents and link them up with desires We often don’t find out what we’re really good at as young adults.

So we diverge, living ‘what we do’ rather than ‘who we are.’ If this is you, you won’t find real satisfaction until you initiate change. A few observations…women are more likely to be ‘trapped’ in a life that is not them than men because of the inherent male family and cultural control issues in our society. Men are often more affected emotionally, whereas women are often more practical in exercising common sense. Women are often less likely to ‘rock the boat’ and initiate change.

So what to do if we find ourselves in such a situation? Overt sudden changes in life and lifestyle often lead to disaster and/or undesired and unintended consequences. A progressive pattern of Incremental changes offeres the greatest chance of success.